***I want to point out that this blog is for me to write. For me to vent. And for me to get all my pent up frustrations out. This is my opinion only, you don't have to share it, you don't even have to agree with it. Hell, you don't even have to read this***
It is beyond gut wrenching and agonizing that we live in a world that human beings kill other unarmed and innocent children and adults. For nothing really. Innocent people die for nothing.
Most of the time, the main question we ask is WHY?
Why did he do that?
Why didn't someone stop him?
Why did my loved one have to be there?
Why did he pick that school to shoot at?
Why is someone so evil?
And what hurts almost as bad as that innocent lost loved one, is that we may never get any answers to those questions. We may never know WHY.
Another thought that runs through our heads is, 'I DON'T UNDERSTAND!'
I don't understand how someone could do this!
I don't understand how someone could be this sick!
I don't understand why this happened!
I, personally, don't understand why most of these horrible crimes are committed by young adults. There is a trend here folks.
Connecticut School Shooter: 24 years old
Oregon Mall Shooter: 22 years old
Aurora Theater Shooter: 24 years old
Virginia Tech Shooter: 23 years old
And I could go on and on.
What is wrong with today's youth that they think killing, make that mass killing, is the answer to their problems?!
Is it TV? Well, I used to watch the Die Hard movies when I was a kid and any other shoot 'em up flick and never killed anyone.
Is it access to guns? Sorry, there's always been guns around in my family. As kids we were trained to use BB guns at age 5. And to only hunt for food. Again, I've never killed anyone.
Is it Government? Good question. While the Government has changed since I was young and I don't agree with a lot that goes on in DC, you still can't hold others accountable for your own actions.
That's what it is. Who's accountable? What makes a young man kill kindergarteners?
In my opinion: It's the parents.
I'm sorry, but how do you NOT KNOW your son demented?!?!
Yes, I am not a parent. I've never had children. I can just tell you my opinion from the experience as a child. And you know what, my childhood wasn't a sparkly pink Candyland either. I had my share of problems. I just want you to understand that this isn't about me, but my life could have gone two different directions. With help from my PARENTS, I chose the direction I'm currently in.
When I was in college and in one of the worst depressions I've ever dealt with, flunking out of school, drinking very heavy every night, and being reckless with my life, do you know what my PARENTS and my FAMILY did? They supported me. They pushed me to get help. THEY were the ones that made me realize there was something wrong. Every person in my family, including aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers and parents would call me and talk to me and offer their love and support. I needed that. I needed them. That's what REAL family does. I definitely didn't think for one nano-second that picking up a gun and killing innocent people was the way to handle my problems. I was taught better than that.
So, how can you tell me that as a parent you don't know when there's something wrong with your child?!?! HOW?! Because my parents and family knew. I can imagine when someday I have children, I will know.
And I know there are swarms of kids out there with no parents, or parents that are deadbeats, or druggies, or emotionally & physically hurtful, and I know those kids can grow up to be horrible people because of that. But there's also kids that come from that, but because of ONE person that ACTED like a decent human being and was a 'parent' to them, they changed the direction of their lives, and are upstanding people.
And I'm sorry, but it's not the druggy kids or flunky's that are shooting up masses people. It's average young men. Who came from a middle income family. And most of them were going to college.
People if there is one thing in the world that you can teach your kids, teach them to face their problems, without using violence. Teach them about loss, teach them about the right way to win, teach them how to LOVE ONE ANOTHER.
Those families in Connecticut are in my heart and my thoughts. I pray that they get comfort and support in a horribly tragic time like this.